when mum doesn't know best??

Hi all, my articles are brought to you straight out of my personal family life, as they happen. My aim is to make people think a little bit more about the things we take for granted.

For instance my middle son is quite gifted at football. It is his life, he's up at the crack of dawn every Sunday fully kitted up working himself up for the match. He gets alot of attention and deservedly so, he works damn hard. He's part of an academy and the general opinion is that he's going to get snapped up by a premier youth academy any minute. Now the thing is my mind started to run away with me a bit the other day and I started to think about what level of commitment would be needed off us as parents if his career really took off. How would it affect our other two children who are bright and have excellent qualities but don't particularly shine at anything yet?

Already when my son returnes from a match having scored 7+ goals I find myself trying to play the whole situation down for fear it will make my other children feel inaqequate. My eldest child is 10 and is a very sensitive type and he's beginning to notice how much more attention his brother gets. Then I started to consider the opposite. What would happen if we didn't persue our son's sporting dreams for him to save out other children's feelings? How would we ever forgive ourselves for the opportunities that may of been missed? There's really no answer to this one. Obviously we will support out son and all our other children as and when they decide to persue a dream or goal.

I wonder though, for all the millions of successful people out there, equally must be millions more brothers and sisters who didn't have quite what it took, through no fault of their own. Drive is something your either born with or not, it's part of your makeup. It seems cruel really that so much of our fate is already decided before we are out of the pram!!

A final note..................... be careful what you wish for?????

Hi all, well I'm new to all this blogging lark but I can't wait to get started......humm....where to start?.....

Well I aim to raise issues with you that face us all every day, as they happen so I guess I better share my trials for today. Not all of them before you start to get bored just the ones that stick in my mind. I'm not going to give you any back story as it would take far to long and be very boring. I also think I'm going to write diary style for now..

Friday 10th 2012
Went on a course for work yesterday about children with ADHD. My children don't have it but it really raised my awareness in general about being a bit more tolerant with my kids. You know the habits they have that you really cant bear, the ones that are like nails being dragged doen a blackboard? Well I've been trying alsorts lately to get them to stop like confiscating all their gadgets but I've been getting really frustrated as it's not working!!

Anyhow as a result of this course I've been on I've decided that I'm NOT going to make them earn them back but we're all going to start a fresh with a clean slate (including me as I too am not blameless) for the half term. I'm also going to try an experiment. When the kids are really grating on the nerves I'm going to tell myself that they can't help it. There will still be rules and consequences but I think it might help me block out the stuff that really does not matter.........................